Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Online Counseling In Action: Assessing The Chances To Save The Marriage As "Low"

The Problem:
I just started a new job; in sharing a training class I exchanged phone numbers with two male classmates.

When they called, my husband became furious and very angry. Later he went through the phone bill and found out I called them. He said I was a liar and he couldn't trust me anymore.

My Reply:
It is easy to assess, even via short Online Counseling process, that your situation is not easy: you are married to whom you love, but you have realized that he is loaded with an 18th century attitude regarding women and a wife’s behavior in particular.

So be your own psychologist and do the assessment:
If your feeling is that this is insecurity due to an inferiority masculinity issue, use assurance, love and tenderness to work it out.

If you feel it is the old fashion male dominance and jealousy, use your senses and walk out; and the sooner the better.

Your current training activities and future career would not and should not accommodate such an attitude. You also do not want your possible children in the future to treat you and others in this manner. If you plan to leave the marriage, short term Online Counseling would definitely be helpful.

A Son Without a Father? Even Online Counseling Cannot Provide A Quick Fix

My son is now 4 years old and he has never questioned: Do I have a dad? Where is my dad?
The other day I heard him tell a friend that he didn't have a brother or a dad. My son’s father last saw him when he was 6 months old.

My heart broke. I didn't know what to say. Two days later I told him that even though he doesn't have a dad he has a mom who loves him and a granny and papa and cousins, aunts and uncles.

What should I tell him? Can a short Online Counseling help here?

My Reply:
Children should get accurate info only and based on their level of emotional and cognitive development. Examples could be helpful, and you may get them from time to time via the Online Counseling service. Furtheremore, wonderments with questions are always evolving and changing, so it is better to have an on-going relationship with a professional, in order to help find the proper communication that bests serve you, your child and the entire family members.

Good professional advice is based on family history, your son’s developmental stage, his options regarding future communication with his father and other psychological and procedural factors. These factors must be taken in account along the Online Counseling process.